In CONGRESS, July 4, 1776
The unanimous Declaration of the thirteen united States of America,
When in the Course of human events, it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another, and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature's God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. --That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, --That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shewn, that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to
throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security.
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I am one of those liberals who people laughed at for suffering high levels of anxiety throughout the fall as the presidential campaign wended its lugubrious way toward an end that less worried people felt was comfortably inevitable. Reason suggested, the closer we got to November 4, that there was no way McCain-Palin could win, but I found it absolutely terrifying to have to contemplate even a remote possibility that we would find ourselves dealing with four disastrous years of an administration headed by a man who bragged about voting with George Bush 90% of the time, who said that he would be willing to stay in Iraq for 100 years, if that is what it took, and who asked us to accept, as a serious candidate for the Vice-Presidency, a woman whose past (and, as it turned out, present) is littered with ethically questionable behavior, whose politics are to the right of George Bush, whose temperament is meaner than McCain’s, and whose intelligence—or, at the very least—knowledge, is vastly inferior to what is needed to inspire confidence that she could begin to handle even one of the challenges that faces America’s next president.
In part my anxiety was a simple matter of my profound belief that we cannot survive as a stable country if there aren’t dramatic changes in both foreign and domestic policy, but at least equally disturbing to me was the prospect that I was going to have to face the fact that a majority of people in this country are capable of believing that the deliberate propagation of fear and hatred is an appropriate means of conducting a campaign in a so-called civilized world, that lies and innuendo are equally acceptable bases for making decisions as truth and reasoned explanations backed by facts are, and that taking direct action to fix the problems of the world is less important than keeping someone with a funny name out of the presidency. I tend toward cynicism, and I am seldom surprised to discover that people are driven by ignorance and selfishness rather than by logic and a vision of a better future achievable only by commitment to long-term goals that require short-term pain and sacrifice. Despite that baseline bias, I never seem to give up the hope that better nature will prevail and that we will awake one day to find ourselves living amidst the flourishing embodiment of the original vision of democracy that was enshrined in the constitution more than 200 years ago. Anxiety was the inevitable outcome of the roiling clash in my head between my hope of seeing some portion of my ideal realized and my fear of a reality that would reduce the achievement of my ideal to a laughable pipe dream.
Many other images seem to encapsulate the effect of the moment. This mosaic of next-day newspaper front pages forges another vision of unity across the country.
This photo of the next first family tells the story of a new future, completely different from what has gone before:
It promises not only a world of a different color, but a younger one, lit by an unknown, but definitely glamorous light. I got the picture from The New Zimbabwe Times, and its appearance there along with the full text of Obama’s victory speech, illustrates the scale of the influence of the choice, shows that a decision that important that far away says something significant about how small the world is, and about how many others have hopes similar to mine that America will set itself right again.
Given the past, especially the recent eight-years’ past, dramatically different is strikingly welcome.
Finally, the image that first occurred to me as speaking for the moment is not a new one, but an old one. The Doonesbury cartoon from September 2, 1974 speaks volumes about hope:
The symbolic uncovering of one of the nation’s most famous symbols serves as an image of the potential restoration not only of the executive branch to its rightful status, but also of democracy itself, and, as we have already seen, of the standing of the nation in the eyes of the world. These are all potential, of course; it remains to be seen whether the hope will be justified, but for now, the sun is out.
I was deeply distressed, therefore, to have the joy of that moment dramatically undercut less than one day later.
A different set of images tells this story (I encountered these at Andrew Sullivan’s blog at The
This irony is a sad one: the claim the sign makes is largely true (though it conflates the Mormons with the entire pro-8 movement, which is neither accurate nor reasonable); several highly controversial ads did, in fact, use children as a means of escalating fear—in at least one instance, without the permission of the parents. Check out two here and here. Certainly the pro 8 arguments relied heavily on fear and hate: “It has already happened” (with the “it” not specified); “Save Marriage”; “Protect the Children”; these and other ominous phrases suggested none too subtly that catastrophic harm would come to American culture as we know it. This kind of fear-mongering naturally obscured the fact that there are already 17,000 married gay couples and a vast number, married and unmarried, who have adopted children. None of these has caused a cataclysm. So the protest in the picture is understandable and to a large degree justified; I, too, was enraged by the fact that the Mormon church, working in a heavy-handed manner out of Utah could and did intervene in a decision to revise the California state constitution, and I was even more enraged that their attempt to influence was so effective; but I am saddened by this sign because it is a tangible reminder that the inevitable result of a successful campaign of hatred is hatred offered in retaliation. This is why hatred is so bad: it regenerates in widening circles.
I resent the hypocrisy on abstract philosophical principles of fairness, but I also resent it because I have had, for 30 years, a very good friend who is gay. He and his partner have been together as a couple for coming up on 20 years; very nearly as long as my husband and I have been married. My friend and his partner have a stable relationship, they own a house for which they regularly make the mortgage payments, they have long been gainfully employed, and they pay taxes. In the past few years, they have adopted two children who were not wanted in a lot of more traditional households because they are both of mixed race. My friends have worked with their accountant to ensure that the children will be cared for financially no matter what happens to the two fathers, and they have worked together tirelessly to make good decisions about how to raise their children to be healthy, happy, and safe. My friend’s partner has given up his job in order to stay home, because they believe that having a stay-at-home parent is the best way to ensure that their children are well-raised. I admire my friends for working at, and achieving, the kind of relationship and the kind of family that we idolize, in this culture, but which we all too often fail to achieve. I resent deeply the implication that my friends are viewed as less deserving of public concern than chickens are.
The conflict and contradiction arise from ignorance, of course. Those who so fear the specter of same-sex marriage that they are driven to extreme measures to codify bigotry are mired in the twin false beliefs that homosexuality is a matter of choice, and that children exposed to homosexuals, especially if the “choice” is validated by formal public approval, will be convinced to choose a homosexual lifestyle. That ignorance is so far immune to any reasoned argument that points out, for instance, that straight people never experienced a moment themselves in which, faced with a choice, they decided to be heterosexual, that research shows that children of gay parents are no more likely to be homosexual than are children of heterosexual parents, or that modern science has demonstrated, based on studies of twins, that the highest predictor of homosexuality is genetic and the second highest is a trauma, such as abandonment by the parent of the same sex, when one is very young—before reaching school age. All current information indicates that there is at no point in anyone’s life a chance to simply choose, consciously and willfully, one’s sexual orientation. (Another excellent source of documented information is the book Everything You Never Wanted Your Kids to Know About Sex But Were Afraid They’d Ask, by Justin Richardson and Mark Schuster.) People who oppose rights for homosexuals, however, do so because they hold old, deeply rooted beliefs, almost always based in religion, and because they are unwilling to try to find out more, because they are afraid that their ideas might prove to be wrong. These people don’t know my friends in
The effort, then, thrives on a deliberate fostering of ignorance, and that effort has led to the formalizing of hypocrisy in the
California’s constitution states:
(b) A citizen or class of citizens may not be granted privileges or immunities not
granted on the same terms to all citizens. Privileges or immunities granted by
the Legislature may be altered or revoked.
SECTION 1. Title
This measure shall be known and may be cited as the “California Marriage Protection Act.”
SECTION 2. Section 7.5 is added to Article I of the California Constitution, to read:
SEC. 7.5. Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid or recognized in
These sixteen words now enacted into law effectively negate the principle in the
A 24-point Obama win in
I have been picking on
Obama has demonstrated himself to be an extremely intelligent person; I have to think that he is aware of the irrationality of the ideological fence he has chosen to walk on this particular issue. I would like to hear his explanation for that choice. I would like to know whether he truly knows that if we are to eliminate discrimination, then we must offer same-sex marriage so long as we offer different-sex marriage and only took the position he took because he feared he could not otherwise be elected, or whether in fact Obama suffers from the same self-deluding hypocrisy that we have just seen out of many Californians who have managed to convince themselves that it is possible to proclaim oneself an advocate for African-Americans and chickens but not for homosexuals and still claim to be an open-minded defender of the constitution. I would like to hear Obama answer a question such as this one: “If Civil Unions serve sufficiently to protect the rights of gay people, then presumably, given your stance on equality and non-discrimination, you believe that Civil Unions also serve sufficiently to protect the rights of straight people. Why, then, are you married? And if you believe, as it seems you must, that marriage confers some further benefit that you deserve and chose to take advantage of, then why do homosexuals not deserve the same as you?” I would like to see all those who try to walk the line between bigotry and enlightenment answer the same question; I would like to see it made clear that there is no middle road. One either believes in equality or one does not. A stand for equality for some but not for others is, by definition, a stand for inequality.
We have made much progress; the concrete sign of that progress that we enacted this week by the long-overdue step of electing an African-American President is of immense historical, philosophical, and emotional value, and is justifiably a source of great joy for those who look for mankind’s better nature to assert itself more and more in years to come. Barack Obama ran on the narrative of hope: he promised us that change is possible, and that we can enact it if we but believe and then work for what we believe in. What I hope for now is that President-Elect Obama will have learned something from his own magnificent experience of what it feels like to find oneself on the far side of the wall of bigotry, with the crumbled remains of that wall on the ground behind him. My hope is that Obama will be able to lead the next charge of those who believe and those who are almost ready to believe in the next effort to eliminate one of the last remaining socially and legally acceptable prejudices. The hope I have for soon-to-be President Obama is that he will show us how to take one more serious step toward achieving the equality for all mankind that the men who founded the